Scarlet O’Hara Is The Original Manic Pixie Dream Girl

Now that I am out there dating, I keep getting referred to as one of the og manic pixie dream girls. And while that is flattering in the sense that everyone thinks I am cute, it’s also a little stressful to be referred to as any sort of fae while in my mid-forties.

So, I got to thinking about it, the why… why is being tiny and sparkly such a big deal to people, and why is it something that we actively seek people like this out not just in romantic relationships, but in our regular ‘ol friendships, too? I think the answer is simple, now that we are single again here in our mid-lives, we have to figure out how to change things up. To do something a little different, as god as our witness, we will never be in a boring relationship again.

When you’re in an unhappy relationship, it’s not just unhappy. That part is hard, but it’s so boring. It’s so boring to go and do all the things that you have to do in life with someone you just don’t like.

You think Costco on a Saturday is bad? Try it with someone you caught lying to you about where they were last night…

I could go into some diatribe with hilarious costco puns about hot dogs and oversized trash cans, but you get my point. People want different, but it isn’t why you think they do, they want different because they are desperate not to repeat those mistakes of their past.

They want different because they know they can do better than they just did. If they didn’t they wouldn’t be trying. And it’s always a little about hope, right?

So, I think it’s okay to be totally myself right now, and if it isn’t for people, if it’s a little too manic pixie, and a little too much, then that’s their choice, not mine.

Fiddle-dee-dee?