Category: Heavy Handed Advice

Heavy Handed Advice is exactly what it sounds like — opinions you didn’t ask for but probably need. This is the corner of the internet where I tell you what I’d tell my best friend, which is sometimes “you’re right” and sometimes “you’re being ridiculous.”
What kind of advice is on TTB?
Life stuff. Money stuff. Relationship stuff. Parenting stuff. The kind of advice that doesn’t come with a 17-step plan or a $99 download. Just honest takes from someone who’s made every mistake worth making and lived to write about it.
Who writes the advice posts?
I do. — blogger since the AOL days, currently raising one kid and several houseplants. If I write it, I mean it.
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  • Here’s The List of 100 Best Places To Work In 2022

    Here’s The List of 100 Best Places To Work In 2022

    If you aren’t happy at your job, you’re not alone.

    Luckily, I LOVE what I do, but that’s not the case for so many.

    Looking to make a switch?

    According to Glassdoor, these were the 100 best places to work in 2022 — and a few of them sound GREAT!

    To make the list, these places of employment had to be tops in six categories that included career opportunities, compensation, benefits, culture, diversity and a great work-life balance.

    The 100 Best Places To Work

    100. Zoom Video Communications
    99. RE/MAX
    98. Malouf Companies
    97. Universal Studios
    96. Cincinnati Children’s Hospital

    95. REI
    94. Pfizer
    93. Costco Wholesale
    92. Intel Corporation
    91. Procore Technologies

    90. Scheels
    89. Exact Sciences
    88. Madewell
    87. Qualcomm
    86. Mayo Clinic

    85. VMware
    84. Vans
    83. Medtronic
    82. Mars
    81. Cisco Systems

    80. Wegmans Food Markets
    79. NIH
    78. Estée Lauder Companies
    77. Randstad Sourceright
    76. Workday

    75. Johnson & Johnson
    74. Roche
    73. Capital One
    72. SailPoint Technologies
    71. Visa Inc.

    70. Databricks
    69. CDW
    68. Forrester
    67. Atlassian
    66. Viasat

    65. Coldwell Banker
    64. AMD
    63. Slalom
    62. Robins & Morton
    61. First Republic Bank

    60. Qualtrics
    59. Fidelity Investments
    58. Momentum Solar
    57. Texas Instruments
    56. Apple

    55. eBay
    54. Zillow
    53. Curriculum Associates
    52. Boston Scientific
    51. Keller Williams

    50. Southern California Edison
    49. St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital
    48. Houston Methodist
    47. Meta (formerly Facebook)
    46. Merck

    45. AppFolio
    44. Silicon Valley Bank
    43. Zendesk
    42. SAP
    41. Red Hat

    40. Tanium
    39. In-N-Out Burger
    38. Zscaler
    37. Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory
    36. Block

    35. Hilti North America
    34. Booz Allen Hamilton
    33. H E B
    32. Trader Joe’s
    31. Capital Group

    30. Southwest Airlines
    29. Intuitive (Intuitive Surgical)
    28. Microsoft
    27. DocuSign
    26. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

    25. Milwaukee Tool
    24. Mountain America Credit Union
    23. ServiceNow
    22. MathWorks
    21. Autodesk

    20. Rivian
    19. LinkedIn
    18. Delta Air Lines
    17. Akamai
    16. Adobe

    15. Johns Hopkins University Applied Physics Laboratory
    14. Twilio
    13. Five9
    12. NASA Jet Propulsion Laboratory
    11. Royal Caribbean Group

    10. Salesforce
    9. lululemon
    8. Veterans United Home Loans
    7. Google
    6. Boston Consulting Group

    5. Box
    4. eXp Realty
    3. Bain & Company
    2. HubSpot
    1. NVIDIA

    What do you think? Were you surprised by any of them?

    I was definitely surprised by a few!

    If you want more information on any of these companies, you can hit up Glassdoor.

  • 5 Simple Ways To Combat That Feeling Of Holiday Loneliness

    5 Simple Ways To Combat That Feeling Of Holiday Loneliness

    The holidays are a tough time for so many people.

    While it’s a season of fun and good cheer for most, there are people that truly suffer loneliness, sadness, and loss during the holiday season.

    Sometimes that loneliness and sadness stem from the fact that you’re physically apart from the ones you love.

    This can leave you feeling isolated — even if you are surrounded by others. Just feeling the separation from those you love can bring on those horrible feelings of loneliness and sadness.

    While it sucks, it is totally normal. And, more importantly, it is okay to feel your feelings. They are valid.

    BUT, there are a few things that you can do to proactively help ease your feelings of sadness, loneliness, and loss.

    5 Simple Steps To Manage Your Holiday Loneliness

    1) Do something for others — Volunteering is an easy way to do this. It will keep you busy, and help you feel fulfilled and less isolated.

    Some volunteering opportunities might include working at a soup kitchen, ringing the Christmas bell for the Salvation Army, visiting elderly individuals at an assisted living facility, or working in a hospital as a greeter.

    You can even do something as simple as visiting a neighbor — maybe take them holiday cookies, or simply stop by for a chat.

    2) Start a new hobby — The ideas here are limitless. But, getting your mind focused outwardly on something fun and time consuming will help you feel so much better when it comes to those holiday blues.

    You could learn to sew or crochet, create a “dream destination” scrapbook of places you would love to visit, or even get a big book of crossword puzzles to work on.

    Gather up all those old kids memories you have around the house, and start a memory book.

    You could even paint rocks to hide around town as great pick-me-ups for people who find them.

    Find something you like, and set your mind on something other than the loneliness and isolation you are feeling.

    3) Journal your feelings — Sometimes just writing down how you are feeling — good or bad — can be helpful. Get colorful pens or colored pencils, and doodle your feelings.

    Some people use their journals as a sort of a prayer journal of sorts.

    Some use it as a thankful list — find all the things you have to be thankful for in life — no matter how small.

    You can use it to write down the nitty gritty of how you are feeling.

    It’s yours, for your eyes only. Write what makes you feel good.

    4) Use your downtime to do things you like — Like to read a book? Do it. Want to take a hot bath and soak in the relaxation? Do it. Like to bake? Go for it — and maybe take some to a neighbor. Like to dance? Put on some tunes, and dance like no one is watching.

    This time of year can get busy and hectic as all get out. That only feeds into the loneliness and isolated feelings. Doing something fun that you enjoy can really help you shift your mindset.

    5) Play games — I’m not talking about video games. Break out those old board games you have around the house.

    Invite over your neighbors, friends, people from work, maybe acquaintances from church — whoever you see on the regular — and have a good ol’ night of board games.

    The bottom line here is not to sit and dwell on your loneliness and sadness. Focus your mind on other activities, and you will be surprised how quickly your mood perks up.

  • These Are The Stars We’ve Lost In 2022

    These Are The Stars We’ve Lost In 2022

    It always sucks to hear that our favorite celebrities have passed away, and we’ve lost some good ones this year.

    From those that made us laugh, to those who could dance circles around us, to beloved actors we have watched for years, to singing sensations — Hollywood and the world have lost some of the best of the best this year.

    Let’s take a look back, and remember those we lost this year.

    Stars We’ve Lost In 2022

    Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss — Passed away on December 13th. He was 40.

    Kirstie Alley — Passed away on December 5th. She was 71.

    Christine McVie — Passed away on November 30th. She was 79.

    Brad William Henke — Passed away on November 29th. He was 56.

    Irene Cara — Passed away on November 25th. She was 63.

    Aaron Carter — Passed away on November 5th. He was 34.

    Leslie Jordan — Passed away on October 24th. He was 67.

    Coolio — Passed away on September 28th. He was 59.

    Louise Fletcher — Passed away on September 23th. She was 88.

    Queen Elizabeth II — Passed away on September 8th. She was 96.

    Anne Heche — Passed away on August 14th. She was 53.

    Olivia Newton-John — Passed away on August 8th. She was 73.

    Nichelle Nichols — Passed away on July 30th. She was 89.

    Paul Sorvino — Passed away on July 25th. He was 83.

    David Warner — Passed away on July 24th. He was 80.

    Ivana Trump — Passed away on July 14th. She was 73.

    James Caan — Passed away on July 6th. He was 82.

    Brett Tuggle — Passed away on June 19th. He was 70.

    Philip Baker Hall — Passed away on June 12th. He was 90.

    Andy Fletcher — Passed away on May 26th. He was 60.

    Ray Liotta — Passed away on May 26th. He was 67.

    Mike Hagerty — Passed away on May 5th. He was 67.

    Naomi Judd — Passed away on April 30th. She was 76.

    Gilbert Gottfried — Passed away on April 12th. He was 67.

    Estelle Harris — Passed away on April 2nd. She was 93.

    Taylor Hawkins — Passed away on March 25th. He was 50.

    Madeleine Albright — Passed away on March 23rd. She was 84.

    William Hurt — Passed away on March 13th. He was 71.

    Mark Lanegan — Passed away on February 22nd. He was 57.

    Lindsey Pearlman — Passed away on February 18th. She was 43.

    Ivan Reitman — Passed away on February 12th. He was 75.

    Betty Davis — Passed away on February 8th. She was 77.

    Howard Hesseman — Passed away on January 29th. He was 81.

    Louie Anderson — Passed away on January 21. He was 68.

    Meat Loaf — Passed away on January 20th. He was 74.

    Gaspard Ulliel — Passed away on January 19th. He was 37.

    Peter Robbins — Passed away on January 18th. He was 65.

    Clint Arlis — Passed away on January 11th. He was 34.

    Ronnie Spector — Passed away on January 12th. She was 78.

    Bob Saget — Passed away on January 9th. He was 65.

    Sidney Poitier — Passed away on January 6th. He was 94.

    Candice Murley — Passed away on January 2nd. She was 36.

    Our condolences to their family, friends, and fans.

    Did we miss your favorite? Let us know below.

  • A Novel That Steven King Called “Scary As Hell” Is Getting Made Into A Series And I Can’t Wait

    A Novel That Steven King Called “Scary As Hell” Is Getting Made Into A Series And I Can’t Wait

    You know if Stephen King calls a novel “Scary As Hell,” it’s going to be hella frightening!

    The Deep, a novel by Nick Cutter, is being developed into an Amazon series, and Stephen King has referred to the novel as “Scary as hell, and well written, to boot.”

    So, if you like to be scared out of your mind, this just might be the novel and new series for you!

    The book synopsis sounds like it’s going to make one hell of a good show!

    A strange plague called the ‘Gets is decimating humanity on a global scale. It causes people to forget—small things at first, like where they left their keys, then the not-so-small things, like how to drive or the letters of the alphabet. Their bodies forget how to function involuntarily. There is no cure.

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    The synopsis goes on to talk about a healer that might be able to save the world from this curse.

    But far below the surface of the Pacific Ocean, a universal healer hailed as “ambrosia” has been discovered. In order to study this phenomenon, a special research lab has been built eight miles under the sea’s surface.

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    Of course, things don’t always go as planned, and lurking mysteries might signal a dark evil presence that is worse than anything they’ve ever seen.

    But when the station goes incommunicado, a brave few descend through the lightless fathoms in hopes of unraveling the mysteries lurking at those crushing depths…and perhaps to encounter an evil blacker than anything one could possibly imagine.

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    Not much is known as of yet about the new series being developed by Amazon.

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    But, if we go off the terror that is the novel, it’s going to be one frightening adventure.

    Are you excited to see what this series has to offer?

    I can’t wait! A good scare is just what the doctor ordered to get through the Christmas blues.

  • This Futuristic Caged Snow Sled Lets You Keep Sledding Even if It Tips Over

    This Futuristic Caged Snow Sled Lets You Keep Sledding Even if It Tips Over

    Many of us if not all have sledded down a steep hill packed with snow and have laughably fallen off while riding.

    Whether you’ve face planted in the snow or completely rolled down the hill yourself, this futuristic sled help prevents tumbling down the hill on the rides where you catch extra speed.

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    Dubbed the Slegoon, this sled stands apart from its competition simply because it’s fully enclosed around you.

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    Not to mention there’s a comfortable seat on the inside that’s equipped with a seatbelt, and two handles on either side that has the responsibility of guiding and steering the Slegoon while flying down slopes.

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    The cage-like feature helps keep you safe on the inside with an added protection for unprepared falls that even lets you continue riding when the sled flips over!

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    Designed by Spike Reid, a U.K. based designer, this sled’s funky design is unfortunately only a concept as of right now.

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    Now all we need is the concept of the sled built and more snow!

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    However, you can check out more information on the Slegoon from Reid’s website, here!

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  • Dwayne Johnson Has Been Dropped From The DC Universe As Black Adam. Here’s What We Know.

    Dwayne Johnson Has Been Dropped From The DC Universe As Black Adam. Here’s What We Know.

    If you were excited about seeing Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson as Black Adam in the DCU, I have some news for you that is no bueno.

    He has officially been released from the role, because James Gunn — DC studios co-CEO –is continuing to shake things up for the movie franchise.

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    Mr. Gunn already revealed that Henry Cavill would not be returning as Superman in the superhero franchise — a shock to many fans.

    Now, Dwayne Johnson has released a statement explaining that he will no longer be playing Black Adam.

    According to TheGamer.com, Johnson also unfollowed both Warner Bros. and Black Adam on Instagram.

    Can’t really say I blame him.

    He subsequently decided to turn down a cameo in Shazam 2. Good for him, right?!?

    James Gunn and I connected, and Black Adam will not be in their first chapter of storytelling.

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    However, DC and Seven Bucks have agreed to continue exploring the most valuable ways Black Adam can be utilized in future DC multiverse chapters.

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    James and I have known each other for years and have always rooted for each other to succeed. It’s no different now, and I will always root for DC (and Marvel) to win and WIN BIG.

    Dwayne Johnson
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    You guys know me, and I have a very thick skin – and you can always count on me to be direct with my words. These decisions made by James and DC leadership represent their vision of DCU through their creative lense.

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    This news totally supports the idea that James Gunn is planning to shake up the DCU in a big way.

    I mean, it’s not too surprising since Henry Cavill was just dropped as the man of steel.

    Black Adam also didn’t perform too well, so I guess it’s to be expected that they are dropping it for now.

  • You Can Now Get Arizona Hard Iced Tea And It’s Going To Be A Happy New Year

    You Can Now Get Arizona Hard Iced Tea And It’s Going To Be A Happy New Year

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to us!!

    Arizona Iced Tea is now available in a Hard Premium Spiked Beverage, and things are about to get just a little bit cooler.

    These Arizona Hard Iced Tea Beverages were previously only available in Canada, but they have crossed the border!

    Arizona Iced Tea has launched this Hard Beverage variety in select US stores, and this makes me über happy!!

    This classic Arizona Hard Iced Tea comes in a 22 ounce size can. YES!!

    Each can contain 5 percent alcohol, and they are PERFECT to bring to that New Year’s Eve party!!

    These Arizona Hard Iced Teas have been spotted in Iced Tea with Lemon, Peach, and Green Tea with Ginseng & Honey flavors, and I want to try every single one of them.

    You might have trouble finding them at first — we KNOW they are available in Florida — but they are going to roll out to other locations soon.

    Each can of Arizona Hard Iced Tea retails for $3.49, and you can’t beat that for a large 22 ounce can of this tasty beverage.

    Look for them to start showing up at a store near you.

    Let us know if you find them. We want to know where you can get them!

  • Super Nintendo World Is Coming To Universal Studios Hollywood So Get Ready To Warp Into The World Of Super Mario

    Super Nintendo World Is Coming To Universal Studios Hollywood So Get Ready To Warp Into The World Of Super Mario

    Super Nintendo World is about to open at Universal Studios Hollywood, and I’ve never had a better reason to want to visit sunny California during the dreary winter months.

    My little Goomba stomping heart is so happy right now.

    This world of Super Nintendo is going to be a totally immersive experience, and any video game fan is about to be in Super Mario heaven!

    Y’all. There’s going to be a Mario Kart ride!! GAH! Mario Kart in real life!!

    Get ready to throw those shells and collect those coins on the amazing Mario Kart™: Bowser’s Challenge.

    Ready to experience Mario Kart™ like never before? Put on the special goggles and battle Team Bowser on iconic Mario Kart courses alongside Mario, Luigi, and Princess Peach. Collect coins and throw shells to win the Golden Cup on the groundbreaking Mario Kart ride with cutting-edge technology.

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    Not only is there going to be a thrilling Super Mario Kart ride, you can warp on over to Super Nintendo World to enjoy Mario themed tasty goodies.

    You’re not imagining things. Inside the Toad House is Toadstool Cafe™. Step in to indulge in fun, tasty dishes crafted by Chef Toad and enjoy playful scenery of the Mushroom Kingdom from the windows.

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    And, of course, you get to meet all your favorite Super Mario friends in a face-to-face meet and greet.

    You’ve grown up with them, now get ready to meet with them face-to-face at SUPER NINTENDO WORLD™. Snap a photo together and wear your Power-Up Band™ for an enhanced experience.

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    Want Super Mario merch — am I too old to say that I do??? You KNOW they are going to have the best of the best when it comes to Mario plushies, wearable merch, and all things Super Nintendo!

    So, when should you plan your visit to Universal Studios Hollywood?

    Super Nintendo World is set to open at Universal Studios Hollywood on February 17, 2023.

  • Ben Affleck Sang A Song With Jennifer Lopez At Their Holiday Party and I Didn’t Even Know He Could Sing

    Ben Affleck Sang A Song With Jennifer Lopez At Their Holiday Party and I Didn’t Even Know He Could Sing

    Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez are all set to celebrate their 1st Christmas as a married couple, and they are relationship goals, for sure!

    I’m going to be quite honest. Those are words I never thought I would say.

    But, it’s quite obvious that this second chance at love has made their bond even stronger.

    Their love-dovey feels were all on display at their recent star-studded holiday party over the weekend.

    Ben even broke out in song — and he can actually sing!! Who knew!!

    The party guests — which allegedly included Kim Kardashian, Doja Cat, Eric André, Vanessa Hudgens and Jane Fonda — gathered around a piano.

    Ben grabbed a mic, and started to sing John Legend’s Christmas tune “By Christmas Eve.”

    Jenn is seen lovingly gazing up at Ben with nothing but admiration on her face.

    “Go Slow,” Affleck jokingly insisted of vocal coach and pianist Stevie Mackey as the song began to take off.

    In the multiple videos posted to Instagram, Jenn slowly coaxes Ben on, lifting the mic closer to his mouth, before joining in on the song by the end.

    Y’all. It’s so sweet. It will put you in the Christmas spirit, and give you all the love vibes.

    I’ll follow the stars just to find where you are / You can count on me / Make a wish, close your eyes, and believe / I’ll be home, home, home, home, home by Christmas Eve.

    “By Christmas Eve” by John Legend

    You can see a full video of Ben Affleck singing “By Christmas Eve” HERE.

  • Starbucks is Selling a Limited Edition Black Bling Cold Cup That’s So Rare, It’s Crazy Expensive

    Starbucks is Selling a Limited Edition Black Bling Cold Cup That’s So Rare, It’s Crazy Expensive

    If you’re an avid Starbucks cup collector, chances are, this limited edition black bling cold cup will be on your holiday wishlist.

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    Do you remember me telling you about the crazy rare purple bling Starbucks cup?

    Well, this is basically just like that cup BUT it is even MORE RARE – like only a few hundred were made (250 to be exact).

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    This black bling Starbucks cold cup is gorgeous. It is entirely wrapped in gems with a black base, black lid and black straw.

    Honestly, it’s too pretty to use!

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    Unfortunately, this cup was not released in the US and was only released in The Philippines (I swear they get all the best stuff).

    With that being said, this cup comes at a hefty cost if you are truly wanting it.

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    And are you ready for the cost?

    It is priced anywhere from $500-$600!! No, I am not kidding.

    If you really want one, you can order the Limited Edition Black Bling Cup Here.

    You can also check out an unboxing video from our friends at Starbie Rules Everything below.