Category: Heavy Handed Advice

Heavy Handed Advice is exactly what it sounds like — opinions you didn’t ask for but probably need. This is the corner of the internet where I tell you what I’d tell my best friend, which is sometimes “you’re right” and sometimes “you’re being ridiculous.”
What kind of advice is on TTB?
Life stuff. Money stuff. Relationship stuff. Parenting stuff. The kind of advice that doesn’t come with a 17-step plan or a $99 download. Just honest takes from someone who’s made every mistake worth making and lived to write about it.
Who writes the advice posts?
I do. Jamie Slack — blogger since the AOL days, currently raising one kid and several houseplants. If I write it, I mean it.
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Why Being a Night Owl is the Ultimate Mom Trick

When the kids are asleep, and the house is quiet, it’s like we’ve unlocked a secret portal to a magical land of peace and quiet (and snacks, lots of snacks).

But let’s be real, the best part about being a night owl mom is that it’s like having a superpower. The power to get stuff done and have some “me” time all at once.

The Secret Life of Night Owl Moms

Me Time, At Last!

You see, when you’re a night owl, you get to experience the best parts of parenting – minus the actual kids.

You know, like when you finally get to use the bathroom without an audience or make yourself a hot cup of coffee without having to share it with tiny human bandits. It’s the little things, you know?

The House is Mine, All Mine!

But the real beauty of being a night owl as a mom is getting to see the house in a whole new light. It’s like being in a secret club where the house is only yours for a few precious hours.

And let’s be real, there’s nothing quite like the satisfaction of a tidy house before the sunrise. I mean, who needs daylight to see a clean house, right?

The Secret Society of Night Owl Moms

Being a night owl may not be for everyone, but for us moms, it’s a secret weapon that keeps us sane. So let’s embrace our love for the night, for the secret moments of peace, for the uninterrupted “me” time and for the satisfaction of a job well done.

And remember, even if the night may seem long, it will soon be morning and we can share our night owl wisdom with other moms out there and laugh about it!

The Snacking Delight

Also, let’s not forget the best part about being a night owl, the snacking. You know, the one guilty pleasure we all have but feel guilty about.

But not as a night owl mom, no sir! We get to indulge in all the snacks we want without anyone judging us for it.

The Magic of the Night

What’s even better, being a night owl mom, we get to experience the true magic of the night, like the silence that comes with the darkness, a sensation that many of us never get to experience during the day.

Plus, who needs a social life when you’ve got a never-ending list of to-dos and a full fridge of snacks?

The Final Thought

So, to all the night owl moms out there, embrace your love for the night. It may seem tough at times, but trust me, it’s worth it.

Because when the kids are asleep, and the house is quiet, the world is our playground and the possibilities are endless.
Target Is Selling Strawberry Whipped Cream and I’m Putting it On Everything

Just like the peanut butter and jelly team, whipped cream and ice cream are a classic second duo.

From pancakes in the morning, to an afternoon snack, a spritz in your mouth before dinner, or topped on your evening ice cream sundae, the sweet delight covers many plates other than just your dessert.

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And thanks to Target, we have one more reason to pile our desserts high with whipped cream considering their latest whipped dairy flavor.

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Dubbed the Strawberry Whipped Dairy Topping by the Favorite Day brand, this can of whipped cream might just be your favorite sweet to top on all of your desserts.

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Rather pink than white, this strawberry whipped cream flavor comes out pink and goes great on a strawberry protein shake, rice cakes, or even dipped with whole strawberries for Valentine’s day.

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The perfect pink topping for all of your Valentine’s day baked goods.

So alongside the sprinkles, cherries, and chocolate syrup, you can now add strawberry whipped cream to your next grocery list because who wants to forget the topping that completes your banana split.

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You can currently find the Strawberry Whipped Dairy Topping stocked in stores and online at Target for under five dollars.

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Dear Dads: Why Helping with Household Chores is Essential for Building Strong Families

Dads, when it comes to household chores, we know many of you may feel like they are not your responsibility.

But the truth is, helping with household chores is essential for building strong and healthy families. Not only does it make the workload more manageable for moms, but it also teaches children valuable life skills and sets a positive example for them.

When dads take on an active role in household chores, it helps to break down gender stereotypes and teaches children that household responsibilities are not just the responsibility of one gender.

It shows them that everyone has a role to play in keeping a household running smoothly.

Moreover, helping with household chores can also improve communication and teamwork within families. When you take on more responsibilities around the house, it allows you to better understand the daily tasks and challenges that your partner faces, and opens up opportunities for discussing ways to make those tasks easier or more efficient.

By working together as a team, you can create a more harmonious home environment.

Not only that, but by helping with household chores, you will have more opportunities to bond with your kids. It can be as simple as cooking dinner together, or doing laundry as a family.

These seemingly mundane tasks can provide valuable time to connect and create memories.

It’s important to note that when we talk about dads helping with household chores, we don’t mean that moms should not also help with tasks traditionally associated with dads, like car repairs or yard work. Both parents should take on a variety of tasks and responsibilities based on their strengths, preferences, and availability.

We know that many dads work long hours and are exhausted by the time they get home. But remember, it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being willing to try. Even small efforts, like loading the dishwasher after dinner or doing a load of laundry, can make a big difference. And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to ask for help or to discuss a more equitable division of labor with your partner.

In conclusion, helping with household chores is not just a task to be completed, but an opportunity to strengthen the bonds of your family.

It shows your children that you are an active and engaged parent, and it helps to create a more harmonious home environment. So next time you’re at home and see a chore that needs to be done, roll up your sleeves and jump in. Your family will thank you.
Sixteen Things I Want My Daughter To Know Before She Turns Sixteen

Hey kiddo,

Can you believe it? 16 already! I feel like just yesterday you were asking me to help tie your shoes and now you’re getting your driver’s license! I am so proud of the person you’re becoming and I can’t wait to see all the amazing things you’ll accomplish.

Before you officially become a sweet sixteen, I wanted to remind you of a few things that have helped me in life, and I hope they’ll help you too.

1. You’re amazing, just the way you are!

Don’t let anyone else’s opinions of you change how you feel about yourself. You’re unique and special, and that’s something to be proud of. Believe in yourself and your talents, and don’t be afraid to chase your dreams.

2. Mistakes happen, it’s how we learn

It’s ok to make mistakes, that’s how we learn and grow. The most important thing is to learn from them and make better decisions in the future. So, don’t be too hard on yourself when things don’t go as planned.

3. Speak up and be heard

Your voice matters and has the power to make a difference. Don’t be afraid to speak up for what you believe in, whether it’s standing up for a friend or sharing your thoughts with others. Make sure your voice is heard.

4. Surround yourself with good people

Choose your friends wisely and surround yourself with people who lift you up, make you laugh and support you. The company you keep has a huge impact on your life, so be intentional about who you let in.

5. Take care of yourself

It’s important to take care of both your body and your mind. Make sure to exercise, eat healthy, and get enough sleep. And don’t forget to make time for yourself and the things you enjoy.

6. Start thinking about your future

It’s never too early to start thinking about your future, what you want to do, where you want to go. Pursue your passions and don’t be afraid to chase your dreams. Remember, I’ll always support you no matter what.

7. Stay true to yourself

It’s natural to want to fit in, but never compromise your beliefs or values just to do so. Stay true to yourself, and be proud of who you are.

8. Keep an open mind

Be open to new experiences, different perspectives and different people. You never know what you might learn from them.

9. Be kind

Treat others with kindness and respect. It’s important to practice empathy and always be willing to lend a helping hand.

10. Be confident

Believe in yourself and your abilities. Confidence is key to achieving your goals and making the most out of life.

11. Learn to say no

Don’t be afraid to say no to things that don’t align with your values or goals. It’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize yourself.

12. Travel and explore

Travel and explore new places, it will help you expand your horizons and get a better understanding of the world around you. It will also create memorable experiences for you.

13. Learn to manage your finances

Start learning to manage your finances early, it will serve you well in the future. Make a budget, start saving and invest in yourself.

14. Volunteer and give back

Find a cause you are passionate about and volunteer. Giving back to others will make not only a difference in their lives but also yours as well. It’s a great way to learn new skills and make a positive impact in the world.

15. Learn a new skill or hobby

Learning something new is always exciting, it’s a great way to challenge yourself, build confidence and have fun. Whether it’s learning a new language, taking up a new hobby, or joining a club, keep exploring new interests.

16. Never stop learning and growing

Life is a constant journey of learning and growth, so don’t stop just because you’ve reached a milestone birthday. Keep learning, keep growing and keep discovering new things about yourself and the world around you.

I hope these tips will serve you well in your journey of growing up, always remember that I love you, and I’m always here for you.

Love you bunches,

Mom
Unlock Love’s Secret Tradition: Give a Penny on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a time for love, flowers, chocolates, and cards, but have you ever heard of the tradition of giving “lucky pennies” on this holiday of love?

The practice of giving a “lucky penny” as a Valentine’s Day gift dates back to the 19th century. It was believed that giving a penny to your loved one on Valentine’s Day would bring them good luck and prosperity.

The penny would be wrapped in a special message or poem, and it was thought that the more original the message, the more luck it would bring.

Today, the tradition of giving a “lucky penny” has largely fallen out of practice, but it is still remembered by some as a quirky and nostalgic way to show love and appreciation on Valentine’s Day.

So next time you’re looking for a unique and meaningful gift, consider giving a “lucky penny” and make it a tradition in your relationship.

It may seem strange and quaint by today’s standards, but it’s a reminder that Valentine’s Day has been celebrated in many ways throughout history and many cultures, and it is a nice way to show a person that you care for them.
Move Over Diet, The Girl Scout Cookie Lineup for 2023 is Here

Move over diet, it’s officially girl scout cookie season and we’re stocking up!

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After eating boat loads of holiday sweet treats until our stomachs hurt, it’s time to switch over to the Thin Mints and Do-si-dos.

Oh, and throw those diets out the window…

Considering Girl Scout cookie season is nationally recognized to begin this month through April, here are the flavors to expect when stocking up on your favorites.

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For this year’s cookie lineup, there are ten flavors on the menu.

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Including the Lemon-Ups, Thin Mints, Adventurefuls, Trefoils, Do-si-dos, Samoas, Tagalongs, S’mores, Toffee-tastic, and Raspberry Rally!

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Now keep in mind that depending on where you live, some booths may begin selling earlier than others but there’s no reason to fret because you can now order your cookies online and here’s how.

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If you happen to know a Girl Scout, you can ask for her online site using the Digital Cookie Platform to buy all the boxes you might be craving.

However if you don’t know a girl scout, you can also call 1-888-9-thinmint or complete the Customer Cookie Request Form here to be connected to a local Girl Scout Troop.

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You can also enter your zip code here, on the Girl Scout Cookie website to find local booths around you!
Why Potty Training is the Actual Worst: A Parent’s Confession

Raising a child is a beautiful, joyous experience, but let’s be real here, some aspects of it are just plain hard. And among all the challenging stages of parenting, potty training might just be the absolute worst. I know, I know, you’re thinking, “But it’s such a small thing. How bad can it be?”

Oh, my dear friends, let me tell you.

First of all, there’s the constant worry. Are they ready? Are they showing signs of readiness? Are we doing this right? Are we setting them up for success or failure?

The stress of it all is enough to drive a parent insane. And then, once you finally decide to take the plunge and start potty training, it’s like you’ve entered some sort of never-ending loop of dirty underwear, accidents, and bargaining with a toddler who just doesn’t seem to understand the concept.

And don’t even get me started on the public bathroom situation. Trying to maneuver a squirmy, uncooperative child onto a strange, public toilet is a special kind of nightmare.

The looks of judgment from other parents and strangers alike as you try to explain to your child why they need to “go potty now” are enough to make you want to crawl into a hole and hide.

But the worst part, the absolute worst part, is the emotional toll it takes on you as a parent. The constant reminders of “I need to go potty” when you’re already stretched thin and running on empty, the feeling of defeat when yet another pair of underwear gets tossed into the laundry pile, and the guilt that maybe, just maybe, you’re screwing your child up for life because they aren’t potty trained at exactly the same time as all their peers.

But here’s the thing, in the grand scheme of things, potty training is a small and fleeting stage of parenting. And one day, in the not-so-distant future, you’ll look back on this time and chuckle at the memories (or try to forget them altogether).

So, to all the parents out there currently in the thick of it, hang in there, you got this. And to those yet to embark on this particular parenting woe, good luck, you’re gonna need it.
You’ll Soon Be Able to See This Green Comet in The Sky and It Won’t Happen Again for 50,000 Years

If space and comets are your thing, you are going to love this…

Discovered in March of last year by astronomers at the Palomar Observatory in San Diego County, California, this comet will soon make its closest approach to the sun this month, according to NASA.

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Named the C/2022 E3 (ZTF) comet, this particular comet acquires a long journey to pass by Earth because it orbits around the sun and passes through the outer reaches of the solar system, according to The Planetary Society.

COMET 2022 E3 (ZTF) Comet 2022 E3 (ZTF) as seen through a telescope by astrophotographer Dan Bartlett on Dec. 24, 2022.Image: Dan Bartlett

In fact, according to the Planetary Society, this particular comet takes around 50,000 years to orbit the Sun, so an opportunity to see it will only come once in a lifetime.

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The bright green comet which has only strengthened in color as it gets closer to the sun will also make its closest pass by Earth between the first two days of February according to EarthSky.

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Stargazers should be able to view the green comet in the evening near the North Star according to EarthSky.

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Observers on the Northern Hemisphere should point their telescope or binoculars low on the northeastern horizon just before the clock strikes midnight to catch the celestial event on January 12.

Comet C/2022 E3 (ZTF) should also be visible (with binoculars) for those on the Northern Hemisphere during the morning time most of this month, while individuals in the Southern Hemisphere can count on spotting the green comet in early February, according to NASA.

And depending on how bright the comet becomes, you may even be able to see C/2022 E3 with the naked eye towards the end of January at night.

And keep in mind that you’ll know you have spotted the green comet when you notice its streaking tail of dust, energized particles and of course, the glowing green color that will surround the comet!
You Can Crochet The Cutest Sloth Plant Holder And I Need It In My Life Now

Y’all. There’s aren’t many things on this earth that are cuter than sloths. Amirite?

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And, you have to check out this adorable plant holder that I need in my life right now.

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You can crochet your own Sloth Plant Hanger, and it’s a super easy pattern.

Corrieneeltjeshop

I absolutely adore this pattern. It is a very easy to do pattern, that even a beginner could crochet this. It also was the best pattern that I have found out of looking at hundreds. Adding a plant makes it that much cuter. I already have people wanting to buy the few that I made.
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Corrieneeltjeshop

This was actually originally a Dutch pattern, but after many requests, Corrieneeltjeshop wrote it in English, with US crochet terms.

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You won’t need anything super special to make this design. Just a 6mm crochet hook, some felt, yarn, and some fiberfill for the head.

Corrieneeltjeshop

I love the simplicity of this pattern. I had it done in a matter of hours. Corrie was super helpful with yarn substitution and advise. Will definitely be making more of these super cute plant hangers.
Etsy Reviews

Corrieneeltjeshop

It is important to note that you are NOT paying for a completed pattern.

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This is a digital downloadable PDF pattern, complete with pictures and detailed directions.

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5 Star Pattern! Love it!
Etsy Reviews

Corrieneeltjeshop

This pattern is only going to cost you a little more than 4 bucks, and you can use it over and over again.

To get your own Sloth Plant Holder head on over to the Corrieneeltjeshop shop on Etsy.

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Dunkin’ Is Offering $1 Coffees for the Month of January. Here’s How to Get Yours.

The only thing that’s nearly better than the word free, is snagging something that’s relatively close to costing zero from your pocket.

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So while Dunkin’ may not be giving away free coffees for those who need a caffeine boost in the morning, the coffee giant is offering something very close that’s also worth our wild.

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Thanks to Dunkin’, you can now get ahold of $1 medium-sized coffees in their Midnight roast.

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So when it’s freezing outside and you’re headed to work, your pick me up is counting on a hot cup of coffee for a buck!

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So here’s how to snag your medium hot cup of caffeine or your iced coffee (we don’t judge even if it is the middle of winter).

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To apply for the deal, all you have to do is order on the app; however, keep in mind that this deal is for members, applies to their Midnight roast coffee flavors only and there is a limit of one per day.

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So not only can you receive a coffee for a dollar, but by ordering ahead on the app, your to-go coffee should already be ready for pickup guaranteeing you make it to work on time!

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Cheers to $1 coffees!