Category: Heavy Handed Advice

Heavy Handed Advice is exactly what it sounds like — opinions you didn’t ask for but probably need. This is the corner of the internet where I tell you what I’d tell my best friend, which is sometimes “you’re right” and sometimes “you’re being ridiculous.”
What kind of advice is on TTB?
Life stuff. Money stuff. Relationship stuff. Parenting stuff. The kind of advice that doesn’t come with a 17-step plan or a $99 download. Just honest takes from someone who’s made every mistake worth making and lived to write about it.
Who writes the advice posts?
I do. — blogger since the AOL days, currently raising one kid and several houseplants. If I write it, I mean it.
Got a question that isn’t covered here?
If it’s the kind of question you’d ask at midnight when nobody else is awake — love, work, the weird dreams — that’s exactly what I built Elementually for. No scripts, no judgment, just answers.

  • Damar Hamlin Is Breathing on His Own and Was Able to FaceTime With the Buffalo Bills Players

    Damar Hamlin Is Breathing on His Own and Was Able to FaceTime With the Buffalo Bills Players

    Damar Hamlin is officially able to breathe on his own.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Alongside Hamlin currently being able to breathe on his own, the Buffalo Bills safety was also most recently able to speak after having the breathing tube removed according to his agent.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    The Buffalo Bills mentioned via Twitter that Hamlin was even able to join a meeting over FaceTime and said, “love you boys” to his team.

    Courtesy of @BuffaloBills

    In a recent statement from the team and according to the physicians at UCMC, Hamlin’s “neurologic function remains intact and he has been able to talk to his family and care team.”

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    However, Agent Ira Turner was unable to provide any other further details and the news development was reported first by The Athletic.

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    Hamlin’s recovery continues to trend an upward direction after his heart had stopped on the field during a Monday night game against the Cincinnati Bengals.

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    Not to mention, the Bills players and staff were uplifted by Hamlin’s recent and encouraging medical reports as they returned to practice on Thursday to prepare for their home game against the New England Patriots for Sunday.

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    “So we know that it’s not only that the lights are on. We know that he’s home. And it appears that all the cylinders are firing within his brain, which is greatly gratifying for all of us,” Dr. Timothy Pritts said. “He still has significant progress he needs to make, but this marks a really good turning point in his ongoing care.”

    Dr. Timothy Pritts
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  • Damar Hamlin Is Awake, Conscious and Has Even Been Holding Hands With His Family

    Damar Hamlin Is Awake, Conscious and Has Even Been Holding Hands With His Family

    After a frightening few days for Damar Hamlin and his family, the Buffalo Bills safety is finally awake after being sedated on a ventilator.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Hamlin, who suffered a cardiac arrest during a game against the Cincinnati Bengals is awake and conscious at the hospital after the world watched him collapse and be revived on field.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    “It’s been a long and difficult road for the last three days he has been very sick and has made a fairly remarkable recovery and improvement,” explained virtually Dr. William Knight IV during a news conference.

    Dr. William Knight IV
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    Hamlin’s family and the Buffalo Bills staff have informed Hamlin about what happened to him on field and so far, Hamlin has been able to shake his head and communicate writing brief notes.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Not to mention, Hamlin has even been to hold hands with the people who have been surrounding him with support according to doctors.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Although shocked he wasn’t conscious for two consecutive days, the first question he asked was “did we win?” and Dr. Timothy Pritts at  UC Health responded with “yes, Damar, you won the game of life.”

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    While hospital staff are still trying to determine what caused Hamlin’s cardiac arrest according to Dr. Knight, Hamlin has been able to move his hands and feet.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    The medical team who provided immediate emergency care have also been praised by physicians at the hospital for their contribution to saving Hamlin’s life.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Doctors have also mentioned to family members of Hamlin that his condition is moving in a “positive direction,” according to Jordon Ronney, Hamlin’s family spokesperson.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Jordon Rooney also explained to ABC News that while he could not specifically elaborate on what was meant by “positive direction”, doctors are noticing the progress they are looking for.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Currently Hamlin remains hospitalized and is still in critical condition in the ICU.

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    There has also been speculation that Hamlin may have suffered from Commotio Cordis, which is a rare condition that happens when the heart’s rhythm is disrupted from a hit in the chest that lands at a very specific moment in the heartbeat, explained Dr. Allen Sills.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    While Dr. Sills has said that it is “certainly is possible” for Hamlin to have suffered from that condition, “there’s still a lot of investigation that needs to happen.”

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    Although according to Dr. Jim Ellis, the NFL’s director of emergency preparedness explained that Commotio Cordis is “almost a diagnosis of exclusion,” which in other words means that no other cause has been found and in some cases of cardiac arrest, it could go undiagnosed.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3

    “The difficulty you have in this particular case, obviously a 24-year-old, very healthy, fit male, sometimes you just may not find the cause,” Dr. Ellis said to reporters during a press call. “There’s not always a pathway. You can’t get an MRI, a CT scan, there’s no blood test in particular that’s going to tell you exactly why they had that, certainly nothing for commotio cordis.”

    Dr. Jim Ellis
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    Dr. Sills also added,

    “I think the important lesson that we can all take away from this is really, for every sport at every level, for preparation for a sudden cardiac event,” including proper training and having automated external defibrillators available, noted Sills.

    Dr. Allen Sills
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    Nonetheless, we hope that Damar Hamlin continues to recover and get better with each day.

    Courtesy of @d.ham3
  • Rumors Are Circulating About ‘Wednesday: Season 2’. Here’s What We Know.

    Rumors Are Circulating About ‘Wednesday: Season 2’. Here’s What We Know.

    Rumors are swirling about season 2 of Wednesday. I mean, what the heck is going on?!?

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    No — they haven’t even announced a season 2 yet.

    But, that’s not why the rumor mill is running rampant.

    We assume Wednesday‘s coming back for its sophomore season.

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    After all, it is one of Netflix’s most popular shows ever to exist — and for good reason, right?

    That dance scene alone — pure genius!!

    But, the rumors about season 2 of Wednesday are still flying.

    It doesn’t have so much to do with will Wednesday exist.

    It has to do with where Wednesday will exist.

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    Rumors are saying that Wednesday is going to leave its home at Netflix, and jump ship on over to Amazon Prime.

    But, according to Vulture, that rumor might not actually be true.

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    Although Wednesday found its home at Netflix, it is an MGM Television production.

    Speculation has people thinking that, since Wednesday is an MGM Television production, the show might actually switch over to either MGM+ or Prime Video.

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    But, that speculation is just that — speculation.

    It probably won’t really happen.

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    Producers are starting to talk to writers about joining the second season’s writers’ room and mulling season two locations, and even though MGM has been restructured into Amazon Studios, under Jen Salke, no one expects that to derail future seasons.

    Deadline

    So, we will have to see what happens, but odds on favorite is for Netflix to keep streaming rights to the second season of Wednesday.

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  • Kim Kardashian Shows Off Her Natural Hair And I’m Shocked at How Good It Looks

    Kim Kardashian Shows Off Her Natural Hair And I’m Shocked at How Good It Looks

    Kim Kardashian has real hair. *Wide Eyed Gasp Emoji*

    I mean, I knew she had hair — but we’ve never ever seen just her hair. Like, without extensions.

    That is, until now!!

    Kim has a joint TikTok account with North — which we all knew by now — and on that account, North sometimes posts behind the scenes footage of her life.

    One of her recent TikTok videos showed her momma — Kim — sitting on her bed and singing along to “Baby, It’s Cold Outside.”

    And, we actually get to see — wait for it — Kim’s natural hair!!

    I’m talking, no extensions, no hats, no coverings. Just her au naturel hair.

    You wouldn’t think that’s any big deal, but we are so used to seeing Kim 100% made up and photo ready.

    We aren’t used to natural Kim, with natural hair.

    You know what I mean?

    It’s actually a bit refreshing. Like, maybe my hair isn’t so bad afterall.

    Kim just has shoulder-length hair. Not too thick, not too thin — just normal hair.

    I shouldn’t be so amazed by this. But, I am. LOL!!

    We aren’t used to seeing Kim as a real, normal person.

    This entire video just made my day. Celebrities — they really are just normal people when you get down to it.

  • This Sick Mom’s Video Has Moms Everywhere Wanting To Join A ‘Mommune’

    This Sick Mom’s Video Has Moms Everywhere Wanting To Join A ‘Mommune’

    Mommunes exist, and it takes “finding your tribe” to a whole new level.

    I must admit. I’ve never really been jealous of single moms — until now.

    If there were a way for me to live in one of these “mommunes,” I’d snatch the opportunity up so fast!

    What is a mommune, you ask?

    A mommune is a concept where single moms all join together in one spot, and help each other out in every way imaginable.

    TikToker, Kristen, recently shared a video showing that she was sick.

    She captioned the video, “Shoulda moved into a Mommune a long time ago. Support system like no other. 🥰 #mommune #fyp #singlemom #singlemomlife #foryou #divorcetok.”

    It got people wondering, what exactly is a mommune?

    In a couple follow up TikTok videos, Kristen explains how she came to live in a mommune, and what exactly it is that they do.

    Kristen used to live in a van, living a nomad lifestyle with her then husband.

    The marriage fell apart in a big way, and she decided to move in with some empty-nester friends — who she dubs her “chosen family.”.

    So, Kirsten, her dog, and her daughter all lived with this couple, and it was working out nicely.

    Then, Kristen’s best friend’s marriage abruptly fell apart, and SHE ended up moving in with Kristen and the couple.

    Thus began the “mommune.”

    Since, they have taken on one more single momma. So, there are a total of 3 single moms, a few kids, a dog, and the empty nest couple all living under one roof.

    They take care of each other, leaning on each other for help and friendship — and I want what they have!!

    In one of Kristen’s TikToks, she writes, “When you’re sick af but live in a Mommune so you get treated like this…”

    She then goes on to show how the mommune moms made homemade soup and cookies for her, and they even took her daughter to the park — allowing Kristen to be sick, and taking care of her in the process.

    A luxury that moms don’t often get, amirite?!?

    Kristen says that it is very important that, if you want to start a mommune, you choose people who have your same values and belief systems.

    That includes agreeing on how you are going to raise the kids.

    I volunteer as tribute! All the single mommas, come live with my family, and let’s start our own mommune!

  • Walmart Is Currently Selling Breakup Bears for Valentine’s Day and It is A Total Savage Move

    Walmart Is Currently Selling Breakup Bears for Valentine’s Day and It is A Total Savage Move

    Valentine’s day may be the holiday that celebrates love, but for some, it’s a heart break.

    This year, Walmart is selling several different kinds of Valentine’s day bears, but they aren’t your typical oversized bear holding a box of chocolates and wearing a shirt that might say “I love you beary much.”

    Courtesy of @ayyitsalyssa

    So rather than heart-shaped chocolates and alongside red roses, Walmart has stocked up on dancing breakup bears for those who might be ending a relationship, rather than celebrating an anniversary.

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    Thanks to TikToker @ayyitsalyssa who shared a video showing the heartbreak bears, the retail chain has a few different kinds of bears that are all about breakups.

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    Throughout the short 15 second video, @ayyitsalyssa showed two types of the breakup decorated bears.

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    And while both bears sang and dance, the first bear even danced to the infamous “Bye Bye Bye” song from NSYNC while holding two halves of a heart and a shirt that read “bye bye!”

    Courtesy of @ayyitsalyssa

    So if you happen to be looking for some help to end your relationship, you can find the singing and dancing breakup bears currently stocked on Walmart’s shelves.

    Courtesy of @ayyitsalyssa
  • Here’s When You’ll Be Able to View The Wolf Moon Which Is Also the First Full Moon of the Year

    Here’s When You’ll Be Able to View The Wolf Moon Which Is Also the First Full Moon of the Year

    Rather than looking up at the sky for fireworks after celebrating the new year, you may want to tilt your head to the sky again for a celestial event.

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    The first full moon of the year will be rising soon, but rather than a supermoon, this full moon is considered to be a micromoon, which simply means the moon will be at its farthest point from Earth.

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    Dubbed the Wolf Moon, the name comes from several places including Native American, Colonial American, and European sources.

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    January’s full moon is also considered as the Wolf moon because it is believed that wolves were heard howling more during this time of the year.

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    So when should you look up at the sky to see the micromoon?

    Courtesy of the Old Farmer’s Almanac

    The wolf moon will reach peak illumination right before the weekend begins on Friday evening.

    So before you eat dinner, make sure to walk outside to catch the first full moon of 2023!

    The Wolf moon will be visible on January 6, specifically at 6:09 pm Eastern Time.

  • Starbucks Just Released a New Cold Brew for the New Year and I Can’t Wait to Try It

    Starbucks Just Released a New Cold Brew for the New Year and I Can’t Wait to Try It

    New year, new brew!

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    This may sound nutty, but Starbucks has already released a new drink into the new year and it’s currently only day four of 2023, although least to say, we’re grateful for the new sip.

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    A new cold brew that will surly wake you up while commuting to work after the long holiday break, this caffeinated boost is exactly what you need come morning.

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    Dubbed the Pistachio Cream Cold Brew, this new roast is for anyone who prefers a nutty taste in their coffee order or who wants to try a new flavor aside from their regular go-to.

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    You can expect the new cold brew to be sweetened with vanilla syrup, topped with a pistachio cream cold foam, and tossed with salted, brown-buttery sprinkles to complete the sweet sip.

    Is it time for a coffee break yet? I think so!

    And let’s not forget about the returning Pistachio Latte if you prefer a drink on the warmer side rather than with ice.

    The new Pistachio Cream Cold Brew is out now and available to order at Starbucks’ chains nationwide!

    Courtesy of @bnunionnj
  • Kim Kardashian Shares Her Strict Parenting Rules For North West And I Agree With Them 100%

    Kim Kardashian Shares Her Strict Parenting Rules For North West And I Agree With Them 100%

    If you follow the Kardashians at all, you know that Kim’s kids have a pretty good life.

    Over-the-top holiday decorations, lavish parties the likes of which I’ll never see, vacations to exotic locations — the money.

    Yep, North, Saint, Chicago, and Psalm have it pretty good.

    But, it seems that Kim has a strict parenting rule that the kids must follow — especially North.

    That rule centers around the TikTok app.

    It’s no surprise that North loves to express her creativity on the social media platform.

    But, Kim — with whom North has a joint TikTok account — has rules when it comes to how North is allowed to play around on the app.

    First of all, according to Yahoo, Kim says that North is only allowed to access TikTok “on my own phone.”

    North also isn’t allowed to spend hours looking at videos on her For You page.

    It’s not something where she can scroll and look at things.

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    She is supposed to stay out of the comments section on her videos.

    We don’t do comments.

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    I actually approve wholeheartedly with this one. People can be vicious.

    She loves to do it and it makes her so happy. She’s so innocent in so many ways.

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    Kanye has gone on record saying that he does not agree with his daughter joining the TikTok world.

    Kim’s response?

    It’s Really F—ing Hard” to co-parent with Kanye West.

    I bet it is, Kim. I bet it is.

  • Blake Lively Shares New Photo of Her Baby Bump and She is Adorable

    Blake Lively Shares New Photo of Her Baby Bump and She is Adorable

    I simply adore the humor of Ryan Reynolds and his wife, Blake Lively.

    Their Instagram feeds are where it’s at when it comes to getting the best, most down-to-earth humor from the couple of ten years.

    Side Note: Ten years in the life of a celebrity marriage is like 50 years in normal people marriage!! So happy for them!!

    In one of her most recent Instagram posts, Blake shared side-by-side photos of herself with her personal trainer, Don Saladino.

    And, in typical Blake Lively fashion, she brings the funny.

    As you can see, in the photo on the left, Blake is sporting her pre-pregnancy body. While the photo on the right is Blake pregnant with her FOURTH baby.

    Her caption on the set of photos is priceless.

    been doing @donsaladino‘s workout program for months now. Something isn’t working.

    Blake Lively

    Ryan Reynolds Has The Jokes On His Instagram Page, Too

    THEN, Ryan is bringing his own comedy over on his Instagram page.

    My celebrity crush — er’, Ryan Reynolds — posted a photo of Blake and himself posing with Santa and Mrs. Claus (who’s name is apparently Jessica?).

    Only, he made one grave error when he posted the photo.

    He cropped out Blake’s sparkly kicks!

    Ryan addressed the mistake in his Instagram stories, and of course, he had the jokes.

    I cropped my wife’s shoes out in the photo I posted. It’s inexcusable and I’m sorry to anyone I’ve hurt with this callous lack of fortitude. Heading to the hospital to have my brain weighted.

    Ryan Reynolds Instagram Stories

    Thank you, Ryan and Blake, for making me giggle on the daily. LOL!!