Category: Heavy Handed Advice

Heavy Handed Advice is exactly what it sounds like — opinions you didn’t ask for but probably need. This is the corner of the internet where I tell you what I’d tell my best friend, which is sometimes “you’re right” and sometimes “you’re being ridiculous.”
What kind of advice is on TTB?
Life stuff. Money stuff. Relationship stuff. Parenting stuff. The kind of advice that doesn’t come with a 17-step plan or a $99 download. Just honest takes from someone who’s made every mistake worth making and lived to write about it.
Who writes the advice posts?
I do. — blogger since the AOL days, currently raising one kid and several houseplants. If I write it, I mean it.
Got a question that isn’t covered here?
If it’s the kind of question you’d ask at midnight when nobody else is awake — love, work, the weird dreams — that’s exactly what I built Elementually for. No scripts, no judgment, just answers.

  • This Acrylic Piggy Bank Doesn’t Open Unless You Break It and It’s Perfect for Saving Money

    This Acrylic Piggy Bank Doesn’t Open Unless You Break It and It’s Perfect for Saving Money

    Every new year comes with a few new resolutions written down on a sheet of paper.

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    And whether your resolutions are to workout more often, changing your diet, spending more time with family, or to save money, this clear money saving jar is the perfect piggy bank to save more green!

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    So if one of your new year’s resolutions does include saving more money, this acrylic jar is the perfect money saving hack to make one of your new year’s resolutions a reality.

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    A clear jar made from acrylic, this jar features a small slit at the top that allows you to drop in cash and coins, but there’s just one catch.

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    While you can deposit money into the jar, this piggy bank doesn’t allow you to take money out, unless you break it entirely.

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    And since this piggy bank is acrylic, the jar is easy to break once it’s filled with green!

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    Not to mention this money saving jar is also clear, so you can see when it’s full and ready to be opened!

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    You can currently find the piggy bank that doesn’t open on eBay for less than $20 so you can start saving money come the new year!

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  • Trader Joe’s Has A Cookie Butter Liqueur And It’s Less Than $8

    Trader Joe’s Has A Cookie Butter Liqueur And It’s Less Than $8

    You can now get Cookie Butter Liqueur, and my New Year’s got just a little bit better.

    If you haven’t tried Trader Joe’s Cookie Butter, you definitely aren’t living your best life, my friend.

    It’s made with actual crushed Belgian cookies. Then, those geniuses at Trader Joe’s went and added a kick of flavor with some gingerbread.

    I mean, YUM!!

    OMG. It’s delish! I dream about Cookie Butter quite regularly — don’t judge.

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    Now, you can get that same delicious Cookie Butter flavor in a liqueur, and I think my heart just skipped a beat.

    Trader Joe’s has done it again!

    They are known for bringing us absolutely fantastic creations, but this might just be my favorite yet!

    Cookie Butter in a liqueur?!? The opportunities here are ENDLESS.

    You can drink it straight up as a shot, pour it over ice, top it with a dollop of whipped cream, add it to a mug of hot coffee for a tasty Cookie Butter creation — gah!!

    Now, you can get this amazing Cookie Butter Liqueur at your favorite Trader Joe’s location.

    And, y’all — It’s just 7.99!

    Grab a few bottles of Cookie Butter Liqueur, and you’ll be good to go.

    Just take all my money now, Trader Joe’s!!

  • Here’s How to Make The Kir Royale from ‘Emily In Paris’

    Here’s How to Make The Kir Royale from ‘Emily In Paris’

    Thanks to the new season of Emily In Paris, there is a new adult beverage that everyone is clamoring to try.

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    Only, this “new” drink is actually an old drink that pretty much faded into the past — as most good things eventually do.

    Except in Paris! Those Parisians know what’s up!!

    In the 4th episode of the current season of Emily in Paris, Emily, Luc, and Julien are seen toasting the good life below a Ferris wheel at the Place de la Concorde.

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    What are they drinking?

    The Kir Royale.

    And just like that, the drink has become a trending entity on the social media front.

    People are recreating this gorgeous pink sparkling drink in droves, and for good reason.

    It’s delish!!

    I hope bartenders everywhere are ready to make the Kir Royale, because it’s quickly becoming a “thing” again.

    The Kir Royale actually has only two ingredients. As long as you have those ingredients, you pretty much can’t go wrong!

    How Do You Make A Kir Royale?

    It’s just a black current liqueur known as Creme de Cassis and champagne.

    Check out how simple this is to make.

    Much like the Mimosa — which is made with orange juice and champagne — you simply pour the Creme de Cassis into a champagne flute and top it with the bubbly of your choice.

    Voila!! You just made a Kir Royale!

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    Pro tip: you can float some raspberries on top to make it extra spectacular.

    I think we have a new — um, old — brunch drink on our hands.

    What do you think? Will you try the Kir Royale?

    It’s definitely two hands up for me! I’m headed to the liquor store now to get my hands on some Creme de Cassis.

  • A Man Broke Into A School To Save More Than 20 People From A Blizzard And He’s A Straight Up Hero

    A Man Broke Into A School To Save More Than 20 People From A Blizzard And He’s A Straight Up Hero

    ICYMI, a pretty gnarly snowstorm pummeled New York last week, covering dang near everything in multiple feet of snow.

    Some people found themselves in a pretty scary situation, trapped in their cars with nowhere to go. Their gas slowly running out — and thereby, the heat.

    Jay Withey was one of the stranded, and according to CNN, he was stuck in just about the worst of it.

    I mean, he was trapped. And, he knew he had to take drastic measures to save his life.

    See, Jay, being a mechanic, had gone out to help a friend who was stuck in the wintery mess.

    BUT, instead of helping his friend, he got his truck stuck in the snow — trapped in the middle of it.

    He tried to call the police, but they said it was impossible to get to him with the dangerous storm barreling down on the city.

    Unable to get himself out of the horrific situation, he tried unsuccessfully to beg help from 10 different houses that were close by.

    Who in the world would turn someone away who was completely trapped in the ice and snow?!?

    I plead with them, ‘Please, please can I sleep on the floor, I’m in fear for my life,’ and they say, ‘No I’m sorry.’

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    As a last-ditch effort to basically save his life, he committed one final act of desperation that would end up saving him — and nearly 20 others — from the life-threatening blizzard.

    Jay grabbed his phone, and flipped to the GPS. It was then that he noticed a school was close by.

    I say, ‘I’m going to that school, and I’m going to break into that school, because I know they have heat and a bathroom.’

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    He acted fast, grabbed a set of brake pads, and headed for the school.

    Jay smashed a window, giving him access to the inside of the school.

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    Once inside, he could let the others — about 20 people — in through the front doors.

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    With security alarms blaring, they were able to get heat, use the bathroom, and even find food in the school kitchen.

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    I walk outside in the immediate area and there are a lot of older people that are stranded in their cars, — One person had a dog — and I get them all into the school.

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    His one heroic act of vandalism ended up saving himself and others from a very precarious situation.

    Thank you, Jay, for acting so fast to help others — complete strangers — from the storm.

    You are a true hero.

  • Kellogg’s Just Dropped New Cereal Packaging For The Blind And Visually Impaired And It’s So Cool

    Kellogg’s Just Dropped New Cereal Packaging For The Blind And Visually Impaired And It’s So Cool

    It’s no surprise that grocery shopping for the blind and visually impaired presents a few obstacles.

    BUT, thanks to Kellogg’s, shopping on the cereal aisle just got a tad bit easier.

    Kellogg’s is teaming up with NaviLens to bring 4 special boxes for the visually impaired to their cereal lineup.

    According to their website, Kellogg’s Corn Flakes, Special K Original, Rice Krispies and Crispix will be outfitted with a special NaviLens technology.

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    This technology allows people to scan a code that will help them understand which cereal they are holding.

    The Navilens code looks a bit like a QR code, but you’ll be able to notice the difference.

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    Instead of a black and white random series of squares, dots, and blotches, the Navilens code has high-contrast blocks of color on a black background.

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    Get this. You don’t have to be right up on the box to make the Navilens code work.

    Apparently, you can be as far as 40 feet away, and the Navilens app will verbally guide you to the box that contains the code.

    How freaking cool is that?!?

    You only have to point your phone in the general direction of the code, and it will work.

    The Navilens app is FREE, and it will tell you the name of the product, its size, and the nutritional information.

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    NOT ONLY is this app super helpful in English, it actually knows about 36 different languages!!

    This hella cool technology was first piloted in the U.K., with Kellogg’s being the first to bring it to the U.S.

    These special Navilens equipped boxes of cereal can be found at retailers everywhere.

    For more information on the Kellogg’s / Navilens collab, you can check it out HERE.

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  • This Ice Skater Just Nailed The Wednesday Addams Viral Dance And You Have To See It

    This Ice Skater Just Nailed The Wednesday Addams Viral Dance And You Have To See It

    I love to watch ice skating, but when that ice skating includes a snippet of Wednesday Addams’ dance routine — GAH!!!

    This is absolutely the best recreation I have seen of Wednesday’s über popular dance — that dance from the Wednesday series on Netflix.

    Figure skater, Kamila Valieva, put on an ice skating outfit worthy of Wednesday — that princess of goth, herself — and channeled her perfectly in a dance routine on the ice.

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    She entertained the audience with Jenna Ortega’s original choreography, as The Cramps song “Goo Goo Muck” echoed around the arena.

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    Kamila was able to incorporate the exact dance from Wednesday into an awesome routine that included jumps and gorgeous footwork as she floated around the ice.

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    She is absolutely AMAZING, dang near perfection!

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    Like, I could watch this routine on repeat.

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    ICYMI, Jenna Ortega actually choreographed the dance herself!!

    She watched hours of vintage footage of dancing 80s goth teens, incorporated a bit of Lisa Loring’s Wednesday character — the OG Wednesday — and channeled Siouxsie Sioux and Bob Fosse’s Rich Man’s Frug.

    It all worked, because you can’t escape the viral video of dancing Jenna and the hundreds of copycat would-be dancers that mimic her moves.

    You can check out the videos of Kamila Valieva’s Wednesday dance routine HERE.

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  • Pepsi Is Launching a Brand New Lemon-Lime Soda and I Can’t Wait to Try It

    Pepsi Is Launching a Brand New Lemon-Lime Soda and I Can’t Wait to Try It

    When it comes to soda, the beverage industry isn’t afraid to try new flavors.

    Considering there was even a time where Pepsi told the public to mix milk with their iconic carbonated soda, we also can’t forget about Mountain Dew’s Pitch Black flavor or the Cracker Jack Pepsi!

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    Next up on the list of soda inventions comes a new carbonated drink inspired by two fruits.

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    Dubbed Starry, the new lemon-lime soda dabbles in a lemon and lime taste, so think Sprite.

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    Decorated with a funky logo followed by stars surrounding the drink that resemble the name, the bottle also features a green and yellow color palette.

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    Similarly to many soda products, Starry will also be available in packs of cans and plastic bottles.

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    We can also expect a variety of sizes including 20 fluid ounce bottles, 2 liters, cans, and the mini cans.

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    While we don’t have an exact date regarding when the new lemon-lime soda will release, we can expect the new Starry soda to launch soon enough!

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  • Netflix Has Obtained The Rights To ‘The Chronicles Of Narnia’ Series. Here’s What We Know.

    Netflix Has Obtained The Rights To ‘The Chronicles Of Narnia’ Series. Here’s What We Know.

    Listen up, fans of the The Chronicles of Narnia series by C.S. Lewis!

    Netflix has officially picked up the rights to make new movies and shows based on the Narnia series, and I can’t wait!!

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    Thanks to The Hollywood Reporter, we know that Matthew Aldrich, the genius who co-writer Pixar’s Coco, has been plucked up to oversee Netflix’s version of The Chronicles of Narnia series.

    Netflix has 7 Narnia books to work with: The Magician’s Nephew; The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe; Prince Caspian; The Horse and His Boy; The Voyage of The Dawn Treader; The Silver Chair; and The Last Battle.

    We don’t exactly know what Netflix has up its sleeve when it comes to Narnia.

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    There is a possibility we could be looking at both feature-length films and series based on the über popular fantasy series.

    This is by no means the first time that we have been to the land of Narnia outside of the books.

    The series has previously been adapted into stage plays, TV shows, radio programs, and, of course, multiple films.

    The most recent — and by far the most expensive — adaptation of the Narnia series happened in the 2000s when Disney took us to Narnia in a trio of massively popular films.

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    Hold on to your seatbelts, because it’s going to be a fun ride when we head back to Narnia with Netflix.

    According to Netflix Life, besides feature-length films, we are looking down the barrel of at least one TV series based on the Narnia series.

    Gah! I’m getting series chills of the White Witch variety.

    We will let you know as soon as we get more information on this Netflix endeavor into Narnia.

  • Hold Onto Your Hats, Because The Nostradamus Predictions For 2023 Aren’t Looking Too Good

    Hold Onto Your Hats, Because The Nostradamus Predictions For 2023 Aren’t Looking Too Good

    If you don’t know who Nostradamus was, you probably should.

    He was this ancient astronomer that made all these predictions about the future — and a bunch of them have come true.

    The Great Fire of London, the coming of Adolph Hitler, the bombs let loose Hiroshima and Nagasaki, and the Kennedy assassination — just to name a few.

    The things this dude knew is actually a bit on the spooky side.

    And, guess what. Nostradamus made some predictions about the year 2023.

    You may want to hold onto your hats. This isn’t exactly a walk in the park.

    He is quoted as saying the line, “Seven months great war, people dead through evil.”

    Yikes. Maybe those survivalists — some call them preppers — are on to something with their hoards of supplies and secret bunkers.

    What about economic disasters? Yup, he predicted that, too.

    So high will the bushel of wheat rise — that man will be eating his fellow man

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    I’m sorry, what?!?

    My dad has been on me to start buying in bulk — maybe it’s time I listened.

    Nostradamus doesn’t stop there. He goes on to talk about climate disasters — floods and famines.

    For forty years the rainbow will not be seen.
    For forty years it will be seen every day.
    The dry earth will grow more parched,
    and there will be great floods when it is seen.

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    Then, with all these disasters and catastrophes, Nostradamus hints at civil unrest like we’ve never seen before.

    The trumpet shakes with great discord.
    An agreement broken: lifting the face to heaven:
    the bloody mouth will swim with blood;
    the face anointed with milk and honey lies on the ground.

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    Ummm. Excuse me while I go curl up in the fetal position in the corner.

    Now, there is the possibility that Nostradamus was just speculating, and none of his predictions are going to come true.

    But, then, what if?

  • A Stan Lee Documentary Is Coming To Disney+ And Comic Book Fans Everywhere Are Freaking Out

    A Stan Lee Documentary Is Coming To Disney+ And Comic Book Fans Everywhere Are Freaking Out

    A Stan Lee documentary is coming to Disney+, and my husband just did a little happy dance.

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    Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last 80 years, you undoubtedly know who Stan Lee is.

    The guy basically created the entire Marvel Universe, one character at a time.

    According to Office Timeline, Mr. Lee started his comic book career by writing for Captain America comics in 1941, and the rest is superhero history.

    He brought us characters that are so much ingrained in our culture, there’s no way you DON’T know who they are.

    The Hulk, Spider-Man, Doctor Strange, Iron Man, Thor, the X-Men, Loki, and Black Panther (to name just a few).

    Thanks to Stan Lee, the world of the Marvel Universe opened up to fans.

    And we’ve never looked back!!

    The dude is so much a part of pop culture, that he’s made cameos in things like Big Bang Theory, Entourage, Heroes, Chuck, The Simpsons, and — my personal favorite — Mallrats.

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    He’s also shown up in just about every Marvel movie. It’s kind of a thing to try and find Stan — a sort of comic book Where’s Waldo.

    Stan would have turned 100 years old this year, and to celebrate, Marvel dropped the trailer for the upcoming Disney+ documentary on his life.

    You can catch Stan Lee sometime in 2023 — hopefully sooner rather than later!!

    See the trailer for Stan Lee below.