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Raising A Teenager Is So Much Harder Than Raising A Toddler

Teenagers? Are you even kidding me? I was in no way prepared for what it takes to be the mom of a teenager, and I had 13 years to prep for this. 

Side Note: My teenager walked in while I was reading this and said, “WHAT DID I DO?” Oh, kid… you don’t even know…

It all starts out sort of innocent with puberty and sleepovers, and then before you know it, it launches into wanting to go to the mall with friends unsupervised, hang out with boys at the pool, and also decide what the heck they want to do with the rest of their lives. 

I mean, are you kidding me with all of this?

The worst part is, there’s no set age to know when it’s okay for your kid to go and do things. Oh, and you might not be the one deciding. 

Kissing boys? When is that okay? I have no idea.

I mean teenagers are going to kiss. That’s a thing that is going to happen, and we don’t really have any say over it. But when should it happen? 

When can they go to things like football games and the mall unsupervised? When is it okay to leave them at home alone? 

How am I supposed to know the answers to this stuff, it doesn’t magically just appear in my brain.

Even though I was really hoping for that. 

And what is right for one kid might be completely wrong for another. All these kids mature at different times.

Sure we can let their maturity guide us to some extent, but if it were left up to me, I’d probably keep mine under lock and key until she was 30 or so. 

And that can’t be right. 

You just have to trust. Trust that you raised a good kid with good morals and good sense.

Trust that you knew what you knew what you were doing along the way, and trust in your kid. 

That all sounds good in theory, but in practice? I really just want to follow her around the mall like a creepy sneaky stalker person and just make sure she’s safe at all times. 

She would be okay with that, wouldn’t she?

(Side note: The teen read this post over my shoulder, and just let me know that, “No, no she would not be okay with me following her around like a creepy stalker person.” So I guess it’s back to the drawing board.)

Middle Child

Sunday 9th of August 2020

you'll get through it. I had 6 between the ages of 10 and 19 all at the same time. My hair absolutely turned white.. They are all now between the ages of 37 and 46 .They are all good citizens, have good jobs/professions, and are loving, caring individuals.

Sonia

Thursday 27th of February 2020

Im a Mom of 4...... I have 3 girls and 1 boy I had my first 3 kids close so they Grew up together My last child is now 13 Let me tell you it's been one heck of a time with her She's done things that my other 2 girls never did Or that my son never tempt to do I got a divorce when my little one was a year and a 1/2 So it's been a struggle Not to long ago I caught her with the little boy at the house And I was mad And let me tell you I let her have it I think she's learned her lesson and I've talked to her I ran away from home at the age of 14 with my kids father and that's one thing I always told my kids I don't want you to do the same mistake I did dont get me wrong I dont regret my kids they are my blessing and what Iive for well including my grandchildren now yes I'm a grandma of 2 a boy and a girl Anyway my TEENAGER now has giving me more gray hair lol then my first 3 kids ever did and its even harder when your a single mom

Michelle Wilkins

Monday 8th of June 2020

I hear you hun.Im a single mum.I have 3 kids,27,16 and 11, 1 boy and 2 girls.The youngest is hard work,11 going 25.Attitude.plus, the x is useless does nothing,I call him a sperm donor.Im always sick die to stress have Shingles again.

Lela

Thursday 27th of February 2020

So in our situation, we have a son on the autism spectrum who is 21. He acts and thinks like a teenager. The challenge is...he's 21. Legally, he is allowed to go and do as he pleases but his decision-making skills and judgment are severely lacking. Talk about hard. Because, technically I can't say "no you can't go because I don't know them." If he walks out the door, there is not a thing I can do to stop him. Let me tell you, this is the most difficult stage we have been in!

Benetta

Friday 3rd of January 2020

Well...

My children’s are ten years apart and God knows I could not handle parenting otherwise. I have a 15 year old young man and I believe it to be harder than raining my young woman who’s the oldest. My daughter was very accepting of the expectations of no sleep overs unless I REALLY knew the parent from school or church, there are NO opportunities to go ANYWHERE unsupervised by me or a trusting adult, and there is no “hanging out” with a purpose or something constructive to do.

My 15 year old accomplished swimmer who if I might add is VERY HANDSOME, smart, and socially POPULAR., pushes the envelope for EVERYTHING. I am raising him with the same expectations but again the debate and maturity level stumps me every time. I have to bring in the race relations as well. The majority, 95% of his friends are of other races while he is African. Of course we should ALL know that the expectations per culture are different. These dynamics make it more challenging. Each outing is a case by case basis and it will never ever change that I must know the parent and the outing has a purpose. I also have to continuously teach and remind him to step outside of his situation and see from another set of eyes and if it looks dangerous or has the potential to invoke negative race relations then he must immediately remove himself.

Vanessa Martinez

Monday 30th of December 2019

Hello, I too have teenagers( two to be exact and one preteen all three are girls) and it is not easy to say yes when my oldest (14) asks to go places and it’s usually through a text message. My quick response is always “nope”. So what we have resorted to is having her whole crew at our house and that gets old real fast. It’s not that I don’t trust my teenager I just don’t trust the world. Lol! I know how that sounds but it’s really hard to not be “that” mom. I try my best and when I do let her go places it’s only for a few hours and no sleep overs unless I really know the parents. I am constantly worried or anxious when she does sleep over someone else’s house. I don’t think that worry will ever go away. Is there something wrong with me. Lol! But no seriously...... If only I could keep my girls in a protective bubble their whole lives but let’s be honest they are growing up and it’s so hard. Anyway, I love this topic.