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The 10 Things I Need My Daughter To Remember As She Grows Up

I never realized how surreal it would feel to watch my daughter grow up.

i want my daughter to keep this advice in her mind as she grows up

One day she’s a tiny little infant, dancing around the house in cute little tutu’s, with bows as big as her head holding back her hair, and before I know it, she’ll be asking for the keys to drive to the movies with her friends.

It’s not fair how fast the time goes by.

this is important advice for my daughter to remember as she grows up

And I never realized how much I would ache realizing that she needs me less and less.

She might not need me to cut the crusts off her bread anymore, but there are still 10 things I need my daughter to remember as she grows up…

If I could give my daughter any advice to remember as she grows up, it would be this

The 10 Things I Need My Daughter To Remember As She Grows Up

1. You can do anything, but that doesn’t mean you are free of consequence. Be brave, be free, be smart, be adventurous, be courageous. Just be aware that there is always a consequence for what you choose.

Be accountable.

2. You will play many roles as a woman: wife, mom, daughter, sister, co-worker, friend and so on. Don’t lose your autonomy trying to be everything to everyone.

Love yourself enough to be authentically you.

this is advice I want my daughter to remember as she grows up

3. Your heart will break, and people will let you down, but don’t let this harden you.

It’s ok to feel vulnerable, and still love, that’s the bravest thing you can do.

I want my daughter to always remember this advice as she grows up

4. You are not just a pretty face: you are a brilliant mind, a compassionate heart, a strong body, a deep and eternal soul. You are not some shallow vessel that settles for cheap words like “you’re pretty.”

You are a magnificent being, filled with aspirations and dreams. Don’t forget you are made for so much more that what society, tv, and the internet shows you.

this is important advice for your daughter to remember as she grows up in this world

5. Always be compassionate to those around you. Show love and kindness. We are all dealing with struggles.

Some just don’t open up and let others in to help. A kind word, smile, or ‘hi’ can make someone feel like they matter.

what advice would you give to your daughter as she gorws up?

6. It’s okay to say no and mean it. It’s okay to stand up for yourself.

7. Enjoy some time alone, love being with you. Get to know you, finding what makes you tick, and your inner authentic you.

this advice for your daughter will help her grow into a wonderful young woman

8. Your weaknesses DO NOT DEFINE YOU. You are a shiny diamond with many fassets, sides, light shining through.

I know some days are hard and you feel like your struggles are more than you can bare, but darling you are stronger than you think!

9. Being a mom isn’t easy, we always feel we are never good enough for our children. Please know that I tried my best.

We all get better as time goes on, we find a way to communicate that speaks to the most sensitive depths of each others heart and know that through all these growing pains we are going to be great friends.

remember to remind your daughter to always spread love and compassion as she grows up

10. Always remember that I am your mother. My blood runs through you, I carried you in my womb for nine months, and at one point we were one.

No matter the path you choose part of me is always with you. We will always be in this together. No matter what you face. The good, the bad, and the ugly, baby girl, I’ve got you. Now and forever!

ten things I want my daughter to always remember as she grows up

Carol Terry

Friday 18th of September 2020

Touching thoughts that ring true. It’s hard being a Mom. Especially when they turn their backs on you and walk away. I’m lucky my kids reached out to me and we became friends again.


Thursday 20th of August 2020

Thank You you were Gavin a gift and please keep sharing Blessings to your family and You. Everything I wanted to Say to My daughter Love ❤️


Friday 19th of June 2020

Beautifully said!! I, myself have said all these things to my daughter as well. She will be 13 on August 24th. Watching her grow up through the years has been amazing!!! The one thing I would always want her to remember is I always always put my daughter and her brother first before anything and gave them my all❤️?


Saturday 14th of December 2019

This reminds me of one of those times I’d tell my daughter “you will only understand when you become a mom.” This was beautifully written and a pleasure to read. Thank you for sharing your writing with the world.


Sunday 8th of December 2019

Thank u I'm crying I really needed this. I'm having a ruff time being a mom.


Monday 9th of December 2019

Awww hugs!