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I never realized how surreal it would feel to watch my daughter grow up.
One day she’s a tiny little infant, dancing around the house in cute little tutu’s, with bows as big as her head holding back her hair, and before I know it, she’ll be asking for the keys to drive to the movies with her friends.
It’s not fair how fast the time goes by.
And I never realized how much I would ache realizing that she needs me less and less.
She might not need me to cut the crusts off her bread anymore, but there are still 10 things I need my daughter to remember as she grows up…
The 10 Things I Need My Daughter To Remember As She Grows Up
1. You can do anything, but that doesn’t mean you are free of consequence. Be brave, be free, be smart, be adventurous, be courageous. Just be aware that there is always a consequence for what you choose.
Be accountable.
2. You will play many roles as a woman: wife, mom, daughter, sister, co-worker, friend and so on. Don’t lose your autonomy trying to be everything to everyone.
Love yourself enough to be authentically you.
3. Your heart will break, and people will let you down, but don’t let this harden you.
It’s ok to feel vulnerable, and still love, that’s the bravest thing you can do.
4. You are not just a pretty face: you are a brilliant mind, a compassionate heart, a strong body, a deep and eternal soul. You are not some shallow vessel that settles for cheap words like “you’re pretty.”
You are a magnificent being, filled with aspirations and dreams. Don’t forget you are made for so much more that what society, tv, and the internet shows you.
5. Always be compassionate to those around you. Show love and kindness. We are all dealing with struggles.
Some just don’t open up and let others in to help. A kind word, smile, or ‘hi’ can make someone feel like they matter.
6. It’s okay to say no and mean it. It’s okay to stand up for yourself.
7. Enjoy some time alone, love being with you. Get to know you, finding what makes you tick, and your inner authentic you.
8. Your weaknesses DO NOT DEFINE YOU. You are a shiny diamond with many fassets, sides, light shining through.
I know some days are hard and you feel like your struggles are more than you can bare, but darling you are stronger than you think!
9. Being a mom isn’t easy, we always feel we are never good enough for our children. Please know that I tried my best.
We all get better as time goes on, we find a way to communicate that speaks to the most sensitive depths of each others heart and know that through all these growing pains we are going to be great friends.
10. Always remember that I am your mother. My blood runs through you, I carried you in my womb for nine months, and at one point we were one.
No matter the path you choose part of me is always with you. We will always be in this together. No matter what you face. The good, the bad, and the ugly, baby girl, I’ve got you. Now and forever!
Kendra says
Beautifully said!! I, myself have said all these things to my daughter as well. She will be 13 on August 24th. Watching her grow up through the years has been amazing!!! The one thing I would always want her to remember is I always always put my daughter and her brother first before anything and gave them my all❤️💚
Ellen says
This reminds me of one of those times I’d tell my daughter “you will only understand when you become a mom.” This was beautifully written and a pleasure to read. Thank you for sharing your writing with the world.
Krystal says
Thank u I’m crying I really needed this. I’m having a ruff time being a mom.
Jamie says
Awww hugs!
Gay says
😭🤞🏻💋😂🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️👌🏻 amen being a baby momma is soooooo fucking hard preach bitchhhhhhhhh
Sarah says
So beautifully written ❤️
Jamie says
thank you!!
Seema says
Wow!Thats well put up.I am a grand mother..but yet my daughter is still my little baby n so is my grand daughter.daughter n mom are very precious relationships.
Margi says
So true I didn’t think I had enough love in me to love
Gale says
I love your message and can relate.
Tiffany says
Great words of advice and encouragement.
Becca says
FYI not all of us became mothers by giving birth!
Shubhangi says
It’s such a beautiful read – you’re not only an incredible mother but also an amazing writer – wishing you the best in life…
Telcy says
This is so intense and eternally beautiful…
Neha says
This is truly beautiful Leslie..I have been wanting to write but can’t seem to find time. Your words seemed to be coming out of my mind too. I loved it and will save it forever. Keep writing and sharing
Maureen says
I love and agree with what you said. There are a few spelling errors which “put off” some of us spellers. I would be willing to proofread for you. I have come to accept that most people won’t even notice the mistakes– no big deal! It has taken me a long time to make peace with that.
Maybe says
I love this so much! But I don’t share things on my social media that have spelling errors.
Polly says
Some of us aren’t perfect, others think they are! If I enjoy what others write…heck about the errors in spelling!! Just saying…
larry gering says
who really cares about your spelling proficiency ????
Bernard says
Amazing ideas you have put here. I feel this is the right stuff for my daughter. Thanks.