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I’m not very good at making friends.

Well, that isn’t exactly true, I am okay at making them–I’m just not very good at keeping them. You see, friendships take work. You have to call people, send thank you cards, bring them meal when they’re sick–you know be a friend. And, since I suck, I hardly ever do any of this. So my friendships usually fade away, and it’s just sort of whatever.

I was thinking about this yesterday when I ran into my online friend, Holly.

Thing is, I talk to Holly via the internet all the time. We chat about our kids–if she’s having a bad day I send her a shout out (that’s pretty much the internet equivalent of making someone a casserole), and she does the same for me.

This internet friendship is a whole different kind of friendship, except that, in this case– I’ve met Holly.

We haven’t seen each other in person a lot or anything, but when we do, it’s not awkward or weird like it would be with a new friendship, it’s like we’ve been hanging out a few times a week for over a year, because we actually have. Just we did it online.

So, is Holly a real life friend or an online one? I don’t know–I mean, I met her online, and that’s where we have the majority of our interaction, but I’ve also had drinks with her, so does that change things? Should that change things? Does that even need to change things or does it matter what kind of friend she is?

So, tell me, online friends– are we really friends, or are is it just not the same?

G. C. Lichty

Monday 11th of June 2012

I'd say real friends, honestly. In truth, one is more likely to display their true personality on the internet due to the false sense of anonymity than they are in "real life" where they believe consequences are more likely. Which is true, as you are FAR more likely to be punched in the face for saying the wrong thing in person than you are for saying the same thing on the internet.

Of course, I'm just rambling. :)


Tuesday 22nd of June 2010

I find it so karmically hilarious that we both posted this same thing...on the same day...with the same question.

Obviously, we are friends and now I am worried we are psychic friends.


Monday 21st of June 2010

lol kinda late catching this post, but I gotta say I love my bloggy friends. We are so real friends.

Jamie (@JamieDeBree)

Friday 18th of June 2010

I guess I'm not sure why it would make a difference where/how you meet? I feel like I know people better online, simply because we're cutting past all the outward appearance and mannerisms, and getting to the heart of who someone really is. That makes for more genuine friendships, IMO.


Friday 18th of June 2010

I've been questioning this myself. I find it hard to feel like I truly know someone well enough if we just talk on the internet. Don't get me wrong, I've met and actually bonded with people via Twitter and blogs, but it just seems like we're only skimming the surface, unless we meet up and hang out.