They’re Going To Complain, You Should Just Do What You Want To

I have the coolest therapist. When you leave you get to choose a mental health themed sticker and a dumdum, and she has plenty of fidget toys to play with in her office, but also she knows what she’s doing so she doesn’t let her sense of whimsy and wonder mess up the therapy.

It’s a fine balance. She does a good job with it. One of the things about me is that, to a lot of people, especially on the internet I seem like I have my ish together. Like big time. I am one of those people that other people come to when they want to figure out how to “be successful” or whatever.

But the thing is, that’s all a lie. Or at least it feels like that to me, anyway. Imposter syndrome is real and I feel it each and every day. For me it isn’t even about not being able to do something, it’s that I feel bad I’ve fooled the whole world into thinking I can do something when the truth is I still don’t think I have this.

What is this? That’s part of the problem, right? If we can’t figure out what this is, then how do we know if we have it. So now that I am working on redefining wins, I have to start working on finding my joy. Which means, dear reader, that we are about to embark on just the wildest ride.

The only thing I know for sure right now is that I love to write, and I love to share my life with you guys, so that’s where I am going to start. Writing and sharing.

Trying to figure out what you actually WANT to do is harder than it sounds. That’s the discussion we had earlier today. We talked about how so many times women have been programmed to want to take care of others, but maybe that isn’t what we want at all. Maybe there’s so much more to us than that.

I am not saying that it’s a bad thing to want to take care of others. I think what I am saying is that it’s important to take care of yourself first, and make it so that the only way you feel fulfilled isn’t to just be taking care of everyone else. You know?

And that brings me to my whole point anyway… if you’re one of those people like me who spends a lot of your life not doing what you want for fear of upsetting friends, family, or just anyone around you really– then you need to remember that if they’re a complainer, then they’re going to complain no matter what, so you might as well just do whatever it is you want.

And I love the freedom in that. I mean at first it was like… a lot. To just figure out what to do and to know that it might upset a complainer or two, but at least when they complain I got what I wanted out of the deal.

So that’s the plan, we are gong to spend the next week doing what we want and ignoring the complainers. Who is with me?