My daughter is starting high school next week, and I am so excited, nervous, happy and scared for her.
There are a few things I want her to know before it starts though, so here goes.
It’s harder to talk to you now than when you was just starting school. Because the topics are more grown up. In my mind you’ll always be my little girl, but the truth is you’ve grown up into this really awesome woman, and you deserve to get to test that out. To see just how awesome you are.
So, it’s time for me to take a step back. It’s time for me to let you grow into your own.
I will always be here for you, I will always offer my advice. Sometimes you will want it, sometimes not so much. But let me have this. I am your mom.
You are smart enough to make decisions for yourself, but sometimes you are going to make the wrong ones. And that’s okay. Trust me, I have made some wrong decisions in my life.
But what you need to know is, they’re just decisions and choices. We can fix anything, and even if you think it’s completely unfixable– we will figure it out. Together.
Together. That’s kind of crazy to think about right now, because this is a time where you are clawing for your independence. But while you’re fighting your way into becoming the complete rock star I know you will be– always remember that you and me kid– we always are and always will be in this together.
I have your back. I promise. Even when you don’t think I have your back, I do. Even when you think I am out to get you, you’re wrong. Your best interest is my best interest, everyone is inherently selfish, except when it comes to their kids.
Peer pressure is a real thing, and sometimes it’s going to get to you. But sometimes you’re going overcome it, and that’s the BEST feeling. When you fight for yourself and do what you believe in. Get ready, because it’s addicting.
School is important. Grades are important, too. You need to make sure you are paying attention and trying. These are a big deal, and if you don’t focus on school you will be sorry later when you’re picking out colleges.
But friends are important too. Your social life, and who you are is all kind of coming together now. The thing is, you are stepping into a brand new school with lots of new people and there are so many chances to make new friends.
Don’t be scared. Say hi.
Be a good friend. High school is big and dramatic, and the things that happen to you and your friends are going to seem big and dramatic. Be there for them if you can, but if it gets to be too much, then call me.
Don’t be stupid. I know that is easier said than done sometimes, and I realize this is kind of harsh, but don’t be stupid. If your gut is telling you not to do something, listen to it.
In this age of cell phones, internet, and social media– remember that everything you do is being recorded. There is a record of everything you say and do. And NEVER forget screenshots. If you wouldn’t say it in front of everyone you know, then for the love of all, do not type it.
Relationships come and go. I don’t care who you date, but I do care that you are kind to them. Don’t let them walk all over you or anything, but remember to give people grace. Be a good girlfriend.
We can figure it out. We can always figure it out.
High school isn’t scary. It’s awesome. It feels scary now because it’s a big giant building and it’s all new and fresh, but it’s probably going to rock.
And if it doesn’t rock. Who the heck cares? It’s only four years and you have your whole life ahead of you.
Just remember, I am your family. I am here for you, and you’ve got this. Have fun, be nice, and keep things interesting!