Let’s face it, holidays are stressful on good years, and this has not been a kind year to our family, much less the social climate in general. Times like these turn what’s supposed to be a celebration of family and friends and love… into one, huge MMA match with Grandma wielding a turkey leg like club and Uncle Joe hacking away at the ankle biters with the electric carving knife.
November is also one of the few months out of the year where our little family has a lot going on. 1) It’s National Novel Writing Month. 2) I’m usually trying to get books finished before the holidays close down the vendor sites. 3) Board Game Geek convention happens the week before Thanksgiving. 4) My birthday’s right after Thanksgiving and Black Friday.
All of that is why this year my boyfriend and I have made the executive decision to skip Thanksgiving.
Sometimes It’s Okay To Not Participate In Thanksgiving.
Needless to say, November is always a busy time for us. But even if it’s not a busy time, maybe you’re just not feeling like braving the volatile family storm–it’s okay to take a pass on holidays.
Skipping a holiday doesn’t mean you don’t love your family less. It means you know when and where the line to preserve a little mental sanity is.
A couple of tips for how to break it to the family:
1. Don’t put it off. When you know you’re going to do your own thing, let everyone know. Yes, it means that sometimes your mom or favorite cousin is going to beg you to change your mind, but don’t be swayed. Letting them know in advance allows time for plans to be adjusted.
2. Be honest. Yeah, some people will not understand your reasons for not wanting to suit up in battle attire for what should be a joyful occasion, but in the end honesty is always the best policy.
3. Stay firm. Your family loves you. They want you around. And they’ll push for you to change your mind, but if you’ve come to the conclusion you just don’t wanna be there, stick to your guns. Don’t be swayed. Or…just stop answering your phone.
This year our grand plans for Thanksgiving involve a crock-pot brisket, mashed potatoes and watching the Lord of the Rings trilogy, because we are proper nerds in this house.
Have a happy, healthy and safe holiday, everyone! If you need us, we’ll probably be taking a nap.