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I Am The Breadwinner and My Husband Is Okay With That


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Times surely have changed. It used to be that the woman would be the one to care for the house and children while the man would earn the money and support the family. Nowadays you see those roles reversed and in fact, the roles are reversed in our household as well. Now I Am The Breadwinner and My Husband Is Okay With That. If you are part of an older generation you might be confused or even cringe at the thought of that because that is how you are raised. Let me explain why and even how, those roles are reversed…

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I Am The Breadwinner and My Husband Is Okay With That

6 years ago, I was working full-time for a business collections company. I was great at my job and I made great money for someone right out of high school. The day my son was born we made the decision to have me quit my full-time job so I could care for our son (he was also born prematurely and spent the first month of his life in the hospital). So, it happened but that also meant that we went down to just one full-time income. We also had this crazy insane idea to have my husband start school full-time as well and you can imagine the amount of chaos we went through.

Fast forward to now and we have another child, are running a few businesses out of our home and my husband is just a short quarter away from earning his Bachelor’s in Game Design (video game design).

Why am I telling you this?

Because our roles have flipped. I am now the primary breadwinner. While my husband certainly helps with many aspects of our business, I guess you could say that I am the driving force behind it. I run the main day-to-day business tasks and he helps behind the scenes. He is also in charge of the household (which used to be my role). Taking our oldest to school, watching our youngest during the day, dishes, food, cleaning, etc. Those are all now tasks my husband does and ones that I used to do.

Does it bother him?

No. He says he loves that he can now be home and watch our children go. He loves being able to focus on family, school and the important aspects of life now rather than just being in an 8-5 job that he never liked.

When you take the time to think about how many has changed throughout the years it’s amazing. We now live in a generation where roles of primary breadwinners are reversed and where talking about money isn’t something out of the ordinary. In this day and age, we are far more educated on handling out own finances and being entrepreneurs.

For me, I’ve always had an entrepreneurial spirit. I learned from a young age from my mother on how to be independent but also how to work hard for what you want. I learned that hard work would lead you to success and then the money aspect would follow. My husband on the other hand was not raised that way. So, it has been a bit of a challenge when it has come to managing our businesses. However, with hard work, patience, and understanding from one another, we’ve managed to overcome the stigma of a traditional household and build our own future in a different way.i-am-the-breadwinner-and-my-husband-is-okay-with-that-featured

Changing The Way The World is Seen

Now that I’ve shared my personal story, I thought it would be good to share some interesting findings regarding this generation.

The study was conducted from a nationally representative sample of 2,021 adults (18 years old and older) living in the continental United States and was called the “Chase Generational Money Talks Study”. It found that couples often have conflicts regarding household finances (no surprise there). What I found particularly interesting though was that 75% of Millennials and 72% of Gen Xers have money-related conflicts with their spouses, compared to 62% of Boomers. Another way to show how times have changed!

It also found that working women have become breadwinners and household CFOs and that 78% of Millennial women agree they’re able to able to make good financial decisions that are new to them, compared to 71% of Gen X and 67% of Boomer women. Both findings that hit close to home and explain my situation perfectly.

The way the world is seen and the way things are done are ever changing. So how are you going to be part of that change? And more importantly, how is the role of household CFO changing in your family?

You can learn more about the Chase Money Generation Talks study and its findings here.

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