When I was younger I dreamed of having a big family. A house on a hill, big yard, tall fence painted white. My kitchen would have been painted yellow, lace curtains – I wanted an old fashioned cast iron stove. My kids were from everywhere. Like, in this version of myself I was the Angelina Jolie of baby rearing. Six kids total was the plan. But, as we all know, plans change. In my twenties I discovered I’m not able to carry babies. I grieved for a long while, but now that I’m in my late 30’s I’ve come to terms.
I still want a baby…even if I never get that house on a hill, or multicultural family I still want those late, sleepless nights, and days spent begging a two-year-old dictator to, “Please, for the love of all that is holy, just try this vegetable.” So now I have new dreams and new lists. And yet, there are 10 Things I Wouldn’t Do For My Baby. I would do practically anything, to be honest. But, there are actually some things I wouldn’t do. And I want you to think about this, too. What wouldn’t you do for your baby?
10 Things I Wouldn’t Do For My Baby
1. I wouldn’t wait until my baby is in her teens to start a college fund. That’s too late. I want her to have a future and I know that going to college will give her a better shot at that than just about anything else.
2. I wouldn’t get caught up in all the parenting scares of the world. There are so many and I don’t want my child to grow up fearing the world around her. I want her to respect boundaries, sure, but I’m not going to let fears of ‘what if’ shade her childhood.
3. I wouldn’t wait for tragedy to strike before I act, either, though. I’ve done a lot of research and I plan to use CariCord to save my baby’s cord blood just in case. Stem cells from cord blood can cure over 80 diseases right now and more in the future.
4. I wouldn’t put off creating my own will and setting up life insurance for myself. I know this seems grim, but since I’m in my late 30’s, I’ve seen enough to know things can happen in the blink of an eye. I don’t want my child to live an uncertain life because I didn’t plan ahead.
5. I wouldn’t make my child the center of the universe. That’s so much pressure to put on kids. I want her to know how much she means to me, but that it’s okay for her to make mistakes and live a life. My world will not crumble if she’s spending the night with a friend.
6. I wouldn’t let my child hold me up on a pedestal, either. Not that my five-year-old needs to know about mistakes from my past, but every single part of my life has brought me to the place I am now. I need my child to know that’s okay.
7. I wouldn’t censor the world from my child. Yeah, I know, kids are little and their childhood should be protected…but when big things happen I want to believe I’ll be a brave enough parent that I can talk about them to her.
8. I wouldn’t spend so much time cleaning that I forget to get dirty with my baby. I don’t want her to live in filth, sure, but when my child comes in with muddy hands and says, “Mommy, look!” I want to be excited; not thinking about my freshly mopped floor.
9. I wouldn’t teach my child that stuff is more important than people. Celebrations are about spending time with people you love; not about what you receive. I NEED her to understand that.
10. I wouldn’t let my child go to sleep a single night of her life without me telling her I love her. Kids need to hear this every day. Teens even more so. She needs to hear it and I will make sure she does.
So there’s my list. I know it’s probably awkward, and off kilter. And I know all you parents who are already parents are laughing and thinking about all the ways this list will change after I have a child, but that’s okay. I’m writing this as a way to look back…when she’s here, no matter how I got her, I want to consider these things and remember that they were important to me. That she is important enough to me that I wanted to plan ahead and think these things out.
I know logically that some of these will change…I get that. But some of them? Like planning ahead for the cord blood? That’s a must. I picked CariCord for a reason. Watch this video and tell me it isn’t important to plan ahead for this one. In fact, you can also find more information about CariCord by calling: 844-227-4267
So, parents, what do you think? What’s on your list? Whether you’re already a parent, or planning ahead like me, I think it’s always important to think about the future. What wouldn’t you do for your baby?
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