In college, making friends was easy. All you had to do was walk out in the hallway of your dorm, and you had nine new besties to hang out with all day every day.
But now that I am a mom? Y’all. This whole making friends things sucks.
Maybe it’s on me. Maybe it’s that I don’t want to drink all day long, or that I have just always made better friends with guys than with girls, I don’t know.
What I do know is that I have no idea how to make friends as a mom, and I don’t see that getting easier any time soon.
When my daughter was little, we did a lot of playdates and classes. Sure there were other moms there, but those classes and stuff were all about the kids. I always thought I would find a mom friend to connect with, but most of the time, honestly we didn’t even talk.
I am rocking a bit of low self confidence, and I am always a little nervous to meet new people, but it was more about a lack of connection.
I did meet my very best friend in the whole world when my daughter was in first grade with her daughter, but since then, I’ve been pretty hard pressed to find new women to add to my little circle.
I honestly at this point don’t even know how I would meet them. I mean, I work from home, and that’s full time, so it’s not like I have a lot of time to volunteer.
I mean, I have a lot of excuses. I could sit here and tell you how busy I am, but honestly I just think it’s about the connection. About getting to know people, put in the effort of the friendship and actually grow the damn thing.
Because that’s the truth. Friendships need TIME, and am I just at a point where I don’t want to put the time into friendships anymore? Is that a thing that happens to people?
What I do know is that it’s hard to make new friends, and as I get older, it doesn’t seem to get any easier.